Life is unpredictable and you don’t know what is going to happen in the very next moment So, it is useless to worry about the critical things which have not happened yet. Oftentimes, we spend our precious moments of life dwelling on things beyond our control, and we have no way of changing them. No two people define life the same way and no two people live the same way. You can still live a worthwhile life if you follow some rules. Here are some golden rules of life
1) Be yourself
The first and most important rule is to accept yourself as you are. No one can play the role of you like you can. Don’t lose yourself in imitation of someone else. Love yourself accept yourself the way you are. Yes, we all need motivation and inspiration from time to time, and you can get it, but it doesn’t mean that you give up your identity in doing so you want to be yourself.
It sounds simple, but it’s so often overlooked. Don’t let fear or insecurity get in your way of creating a life worth living.
You’re unique and one of a kind, and there is no one who can fulfill that role except you.
So don’t try to be anyone else but yourself – which might mean being more confident, adventurous, extroverted, relaxed, or ambitious. The only things standing in your way are you and your own irrational fears that have been haunting you since childhood. Break those rules!
You have to understand that not everyone will like you. You are a whole different story from other perspectives. Consequently, do not settle or categorize yourself based on what other people identify you as. It is people’s personal experiences that lead them to tag you.
However, that doesn’t necessarily mean you are that person. It is impossible to get everything, always, everywhere, so you have to accept that you will not get it all. Everything in your life is the result of your actions.
2) Be the solution, not the problem
Occasionally, instead of contributing to the solution, we create more problems. In my view, this happens when cooperation fails and we do not listen to others. Individuals are entitled to express their opinions. But, too many criticisms are often counterproductive. It is in the nature of some people to see the worst in everything.
The first rule of life is to be a solution, not a problem.
In other words, when you go through life, always be mindful of how your actions can affect others. When you’re thinking about your future, think about how things like your career or relationships can benefit others as well as yourself.
How are you going to use what you have been given in order to help those around you? Always make sure that every decision is rooted in love and comes from a place of positivity rather than greed or self-interest. That way, no matter what happens, life has served its purpose—bringing positive change into our world.
It is necessary that we each play a role in solving the problems and develop the habit of looking for the positive aspects of every problem.
Problems don’t break us, rather they shape us
We become wiser, stronger, and more sensible. We get to decide how we handle problems, and what we learn from them. Instead of focusing on the problem, be the solution seeker in every situation.
3) Be Wise to Forgive
Let’s forgive each other. It is a waste of time and energy to remain angry with someone. There is no reward for this activity. We can actually hurt ourselves by staying mad. This causes stress, which can be bad for your health. You can’t hurt people by hating them.
It’s very difficult to live a positive life when you are negatively judgmental of yourself and other people. Criticism always leads to more negativity and doesn’t bring out the best in anyone.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
We all have things about ourselves that we don’t like, but it is up to us whether or not we choose to acknowledge them or let them rule our lives. That being said, there are always going to be situations that happen that make it hard for us to feel great about ourselves, which is why it is so important to be forgiving of ourselves and others as much as possible.
The person you hate probably doesn’t even think about you. They’re just living their life. If you hate someone else, that amount of hatred is the equivalent of hitting yourself in the hand with a hammer in hopes that the other person gets hurt. Sadly, it does not work this way. Allow yourself to let go and move on. Just remember, you are the only one who can really control your emotions
4) Forget the past but remember the lesson
You should let go of the past, but you shouldn’t let go of the lessons you learned from it. Past events may haunt you from time to time. Memory keeps resurfacing even when all you want is for it to be over.
The responsibility for our happiness rests solely on our shoulders, and not on anyone else’s.
Learn how to forget the past and seek to heal. This is easier said than done, of course, but there are a couple of reasons forgiving someone helps you live your best life. For one thing, holding onto anger or resentment about past experiences can negatively impact your physical health—stress has been linked to heart disease, high blood pressure, and compromised immune system functioning, among other maladies.
More significantly though, forgiveness can relieve you of mental anguish and improve self-confidence by setting you free from worrying about past mistakes and grievances.
The process of healing takes time, just like any other process. We need to let go of the past to move on with our lives, just as we need to stop touching our wounds to heal them. But don’t forget to learn the lesson from your past. It is all too common for us to feel angry, guilty, or ashamed when we think that things could have been better. Break out of it and a whole new world is waiting for you